Surrender

Here are some dictionary definitions of surrender; Yield, Capitulation and Relinquish.  My favorite is simpler, it is "Stop Fighting".  That is much easier for me to say/write than it is for me to do.  When I, or probably anyone is fighting, figuaratively or literally, there is a kind of a momentum that develops and like any "momentum" (the impetus of a moving object, equal to the product of its mass and its velocity) it is difficult to stop when it is in motion.  If you have ever been in a heated argument or disagreement you know how difficult that is to do.  I am learning to do that, just stop fighting.  There is an amusing side to this also.  The other person involved in the argument doesn't know what to do when you "stop fighting".  Sometimes they just stand there gulping and gasping like a fish out of water.  This is a work in progress for me and I am still learning the art of stopping fighting.  Something that helps me is asking myself "How important is it anyway"? The answer usually is "not very".  Occasionally the answer will be that it is very important, when that happens I can still surrender and try a different method of getting what I need.  As my dad used to say "There is more than one way to skin a cat'.  A weird thing to say, as I would never consider skinning a cat, but then I have never wanted to kill two birds with one stone,,,,,,,,,,,,,wow, I could go on and on, must be tired.

Monday, March 7th, 2011............11:40p.m.