Recovery

"No matter who we find ourselves relating to, and what we discover happening in the relationship,  the issue is still about us, and not about the other person.  That is the heart, the hope, and the power of recovery."

That is a quote from Melody Beattie from "The Language Of Letting Go", a book I read each morning.  I read this on April 29th and the words are still running through my mind.  When this happens I have to write them down, digest them and regurgitate them on paper, or in this case in my blog.

Something deep inside me balked when I read these words.  I have been in relationships, family relationships, friend relationships, work relationships and even neighbour relationships where I felt the issue was definitely about the other person not me.  When I take this path I find my body and my mind filled with resentment; I have actually become physically ill and/or severely depressed when I stay on this path.

It "is" about me.  It is about my reaction to someone else's words or actions.  And yes sometimes they are at fault.  When anyone deliberately betrays or hurts you, that is their doing.  The problem comes when I make it my job to retaliate or inflict blame.  Because that isn't my job.  At the end of all the pain, hurt and betrayal, my job is to speak "The Language Of Letting Go".  Only then can the Universe, Karma, whatever set right the wrongs.

Thursday, May 16th, 2013............1:00p.m.