It is June 1st. Life is good. Family and friends are healthy. I am a great grandmother for the 6th time and will be again in about 5 weeks. That makes 7 great grandchildren born without the (benefit???) of marriage. I mentioned in an earlier post how wonderful it is to see people get past, way past, the marriage thing. I wonder how this trend is affecting divorce lawyers?? I spend a lot time worrying about lawyers. I was so glad when gay marriage was legislated, I mean why should they not help support lawyers.
I suppose I am being a little sarcastic, something I don't like in others and I don't like it in myself. It is just that I find it so difficult not to do one of the few things I am good at. My own children, who are all now grandparents themselves, have really good, healthy marriages and/or relationships. Linda, my eldest daughter married her partner Ann 6 or 7 years ago. Everyone who knows Ann loves her. They are delightful to be with and happy with their marriage and each other. Michael, my first born, is very happy in his marriage to Shelia and has made a wonderful home for his blended family.
Janet, my second born is in a happy marriage, as far as I know. At least they are still together. Janet and I have been estranged for many years now. Sometimes a child gets the wrong parents or the parents get the wrong child. It happens. I wish her well and hopefully she wishes me well. Rusty my third born, is with a lady I am very fond of and as far as I know they are well and happy. Leighann, Rusty's lady, is the kind of person I would like to have around if I needed care and we have made an agreement that should that happen she will be here. Hopefully that never happens but it is nice to know that if it is ever does she will be here. Tami, my baby girl, is married to one of my favorite people on the planet, and seeing as she is also one of the best people on the planet it works very well.
I live with Tami and Dennis in a large yellow brick farmhouse, built in 1875. It is a happy home that always 3 generations, often 4 with their own grandchildren and occasionally 5 generations when Dennis's grandma, a 101 year old lady comes to visit. Because I have lived here for over 5 years I have had a lot of time to observe a marriage where he always puts her first and she puts him first. It is a very mature relationship. They don't have to be all over each other to prove something. They already know and it shows. So, perhaps I am the screwup in marriage, in fact I am almost sure that I am. Be that as it may, I am happy and I am grateful. In fact this life I am living is right up my cup of tea.
Saturday, June 1st, 2013.......9:42p.m.
There's a wonderful note of optimism and joy in this post - now that I've observed a few marriages around us - some good, some not, I don't know that I'd say marriage per se is the key, but some relationships just seem to gel.
ReplyDeleteThank you Anny.
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