"No matter who we find ourselves relating to, and what we discover happening in the relationship, the issue is still about us, and not about the other person. That is the heart, the hope, and the power of recovery."
That is a quote from Melody Beattie from "The Language Of Letting Go", a book I read each morning. I read this on April 29th and the words are still running through my mind. When this happens I have to write them down, digest them and regurgitate them on paper, or in this case in my blog.
Something deep inside me balked when I read these words. I have been in relationships, family relationships, friend relationships, work relationships and even neighbour relationships where I felt the issue was definitely about the other person not me. When I take this path I find my body and my mind filled with resentment; I have actually become physically ill and/or severely depressed when I stay on this path.
It "is" about me. It is about my reaction to someone else's words or actions. And yes sometimes they are at fault. When anyone deliberately betrays or hurts you, that is their doing. The problem comes when I make it my job to retaliate or inflict blame. Because that isn't my job. At the end of all the pain, hurt and betrayal, my job is to speak "The Language Of Letting Go". Only then can the Universe, Karma, whatever set right the wrongs.
Thursday, May 16th, 2013............1:00p.m.
Thursday, May 16, 2013
Tuesday, May 7, 2013
Happy Month Of May
Today is the 7th of May. I always enjoy this month, however, this year I seem to be more aware of being happy. This can be a kind of scary feeling for me. I think I am afraid of being happy. When I have been happy in the past it seems like something has always happened to jerk me out of that state of being. Even as a very young child I can remember laughing and then hearing my mother's voice
"What are laughing at? Whats so God Damned funny?" Of course the same went for crying, "What are you crying about? There is nothing to cry about. I'll give you something to cry about." These old messages are still in my head and they always will be. It is my 70 something job to go back and reassure the 7 year old little girl that it is safe to be happy.
I am sure that I am not the only adult hat carries these messages, we all carry decades old messages that were permanently planted in our child self. For myself, I have found that the more grateful I am for the things and people in my life the happier I am. I love the new green colour of the leaves. This colour only last for a week or 10 days then that new green colour begins to darken, so I always spend a lot time during the first 2 weeks of may looking at new leaves. This is the time of year when I think of our planet as "The Good Earth".
Today is the Birthday of my grandson Rusty Roy and of my grand daughter in law Stephanie, who makes the beautiful babies. All kinds of wonderful things happened on May 7th including the launching of the space shuttle Endeavour in 1992. Happy Birthday Rusty Roy and Stephanie.
Tuesday, May 7th, 2013........................12:25p.m.
"What are laughing at? Whats so God Damned funny?" Of course the same went for crying, "What are you crying about? There is nothing to cry about. I'll give you something to cry about." These old messages are still in my head and they always will be. It is my 70 something job to go back and reassure the 7 year old little girl that it is safe to be happy.
I am sure that I am not the only adult hat carries these messages, we all carry decades old messages that were permanently planted in our child self. For myself, I have found that the more grateful I am for the things and people in my life the happier I am. I love the new green colour of the leaves. This colour only last for a week or 10 days then that new green colour begins to darken, so I always spend a lot time during the first 2 weeks of may looking at new leaves. This is the time of year when I think of our planet as "The Good Earth".
Today is the Birthday of my grandson Rusty Roy and of my grand daughter in law Stephanie, who makes the beautiful babies. All kinds of wonderful things happened on May 7th including the launching of the space shuttle Endeavour in 1992. Happy Birthday Rusty Roy and Stephanie.
Tuesday, May 7th, 2013........................12:25p.m.
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