Less than 3 months ago my daughter Tami and her husband Dennis lost their son Charles. And I lost a grandson, and his two little boys lost a daddy, and his brothers lost a brother and his niece and nephews lost an uncle. And his life partner Stephanie lost her partner and the father of her children. The ripples get larger and larger as we include best friends and work colleagues.
Charles was an electrician like his dad. He was the one of our family who could stand still with 2 humming bid feeders in his hands and the birds would be all over him, they sensed his gentle soul and obviously trusted him. His smile was contagious. Everyone smiled with him. He was not a saint, he was human enough to be real and it was that side of him that I especially loved. I am so fortunate that my grandchildren like me, as well as love me. With almost everyone of them I have a special relationship in which they allow themselves to be vulnerable and honest, without fear of judgment or recriminations. Because of that I was privy to a lot of their feelings, both good and not so good. That relationship with Charles let me know him as the man he had become. A sensitive, loving, and kind man. This man held his Mother and Father in Awe, as he should have because they are awesome people as well as parents.
He was a great brother, loved and admired by his brothers, as he admired them, each one for different reasons. This was one of the talks we had. During that talk he was telling me how much he loved his parents and that he hoped he would make them proud and they wouldn't be disappointed in him. He talked to me about each of his brothers, discussing both their strengths and possible weakness's. These were usually strengths and weakness's that he recognized because most of them resided in himself. It is hard to believe that any talks I have with him from now on he will not be present or so many believe. Me?? Well I feel his presence so often that I know he remains close to us all. He will never have knees that have to be replaced and pain that arthritis and other aging problems bring about. He will remain young and beautiful and loved by myself and every person who had the privilege of knowing him long enough to know the amazing man he was.
p.s. Thank you for the gifts you surprise with every so often. I recognize them and I am grateful.
Wednesday, September 16, 2015........9:20p.m.
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